I have read your sitch and I felt a need to comment -I don't do it often to many. It is amazing how our WAS just cannot kick the OP 'habit'. My H too came back to me THREE times total - this last one being the final (I hope for now).
It was not until I truly detached and started to show H how D was REALLY going to be that he 'got off the fence'. I think it was me moving on, this risk of losing us and the fact the OW was getting out of hand with her manipulations. It could have gone down a completely diff way if any of these things were different. It is kind of scary how our lives hang in this balance of things!
I did take my ring off towards the end - especially if I knew I going to be seeing him...
Only you know your H and how to be with him. Sometimes we have to go with what our gut says vs the DB'ing ways...
Just my two cents! HB
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
