Trying to set those goals!

[Trixi]

You also need to be careful of stirring up people, whom the spouse does not respect. At best, it will have no effect.
At worst... well, how do you think they will take it, if someone they HATE, starts bugging them to "work on their marriage" ?

Ahh...I see....
So, it isn't that we are supposed to become an island or a recluse (especially when we *need* our friends and fam), it's that we should be careful that they don't try to insinuate themselves into the situation in a negative way; either to us or our spouse. I suppose this is also why there are "transition friends".

I know that my mom has been bashing my H and trying to build me up, and it felt SOOO uneven that I ended up defending him. I asked her many times to stop and finally, this last time it happened, I got off the phone in a hurry and the next day she called and apologized......and then added that since she was manifesting the anger it was preventing me from feeling it-- so she would stop so I could get good and po'd. She's a sly one, that woman.

Never got to my goals last night. The listing appointment lasted for 4 hours. Yikes! The husband used to be a job recruiter so I got the most interesting questions I have EVER heard in a listing appt. I think it went well; wife loves me--the husband is a little more cautious and methodical, so he'll need to process some stuff. Keeping my fingers crossed.

My new goal-- to have my mini-goals completed by 11pm Monday.