Haven't checked in in a really long time. Now I come back here and I have to say I'm so happy to see your progress. Just wanted to point it out incase you haven't noticed it yourself.
The progress that I've noticed is your clarity as to the extremeness of XSO's problems and your outline of what he would need to do to fix things, also your realistic view of him doing them anytime soon.
So that's a major step forward. Awesome!
Where does your family live and would you want to be closer to them geographically?