Ok, so my 180 is in place, but still feel no better. In fact, I feel worse in most ways-trying to force myself to make decisions just for "me", when I was enjoying being a twosome. Now to the point where I dread the ringing of the phone, hoping it's not her with bad news, yet I just want to hear my W's voice asking me when I would be home from work or running errands. Know, or at least have come to believe that if I were to initiate a phone call, even for a friendly "how are you?", it might now be good. Have been working on me, and my own issues and trying to find out more about hers to try to find a way, and yet I know I can't make the suggestion if I am to be a good DB'er...correct? How long does this 180/NC take? Is my sitch hopeless?
