Making the Move

[saffie]

I have the same probs with the OW. I used to fixate on her and found that that fixation was actually detracting from the process of working on my marriage after my H's A. I thought about OW all the time and he never did - stupid I know.

I have never been on the piecing board before but know that that is where I should really be. MY H gives me no reason to think that he is not fully committed to our M now. It has been my head that has kept me away, (along with all those great guys and gals still over where I have been posting before). But I guess I can post in two places.

What I have found whilst I have been posting elsewhere is that I have moved on significantly and OW is not the first thing I think of when I wake up and not necessarily the last thing I think off when going to sleep. Deciding I was NEVER going to like or forgive OW took me on a big step and also my H told me out of the blue recently that he had never loved OW. He thought he did at the time but now he realised he never did and that it was nothing compared to what he felt for me. That was the biggest move forward.

So I hope I am ok to join you guys here?

And jak58 - hows the tattoo?

Saffie