Really, any other thought about what you might "need" from a particular relationship for your own emotional well-being can be worked through in this manner. Even issues involving sex or other interactions for which you "need" another person's involvement can be resolved as long as you don't limit your dependency to a particular person. Even deep multi-layered psychologically rooted fused thoughts like "I only want to have sex with my husband because he is the father of my children." can eventually be unknotted. Trust me on this one.
Sounds nice in theory, and maybe it will work for a while for someone who is single, but I don’t see this a reality for the majority of society, especially those who are married. The problem as I see is in your term “as long as you don't limit your dependency to a particular person.” If you stick to this rule, then you will never achieve a close, intimate relationship. You will only have friend or acquaintances, even though they may be sex friends. But in so doing, haven’t you just thrown up another variant of a defensive wall?
How can you unknot the idea “I only want to have sex with my husband because he is the father of my children” without breaking marriage vows or having a divorce?
