Am I seperated? Looking for support/advice...

[not an ex yet]

Did he say anything after that? That doesn't really sound like a flat out "no", maybe he will think about it and approach you. If not, try not to get discouraged...or at least try not to show him you are discouraged. Just let it slide and go do something with your friends or someone else. (I know, I should take my own advice!)
He sounds so much like my H I can't even believe it!
Has he gone back to see a C again? Has he mentioned it to you or asked how yours is going? My H absolutely refuses to go to MC, I got him to go one time before he moved and it didn't go so well, so you do have that on your side to be hopeful about. Do you know if he ever read that book you mentioned? Hang in there, things have to get better!