Fearless asked: I hate to ask this question but did you really even like your 2bx?? Did you have much in common?
Mojo answered: Most of our mutual friends and acquaintances thought we were happy/good together. My 2bx was really quite introverted but he was a "performer" so he was always quite amusing in social situations so we were sort of viewed as a happy couple because we were a funny couple. It was like his ill-humor or dark vision of the world was the banana peel on which I would good-humoredly slip and then laugh at myself. After a while, especially in our personal life it just really stopped being funny or fun and became depressing and mean.
My 2bx is an attractive person in many ways. He's handsome, graceful, intelligent, witty and we share many socio-cultural values. However, we were temperamentally incompatible due to the fact that he was introverted and I am mostly extroverted and he is anal-retentive and I am oral compulsive. He wants to be alone in a clean white room and I want somebody with whom to interact in a brightly colored room full of sensual toys/experiences.
I guess this is kind of what I wondered. Outwardly things might have looked okay especially with an audience. For my XH and I we were great together because we liked each other so much. If you're interested, I might post the e-mails he sent to me right after I agreed to a dissolution after he threatened suing me for divorce. You can see how confusing it was to have him want to get away from me so desperately and on the other hand seem to have so much affection toward me.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
