I think it is probably semantics for me but maybe it is just my contrariness
It's impossible to avoid a degree of fusion even in the most casual human relationships but just being able to recognize it is the first critical step to minimizing it.
Isn't there a significant difference between the ideas of CONNECTION and FUSION? I feel pretty sure that I have probably never been fused to someone at any level. YET I also feel like I tend to connect to people (I seem to always attract people who want to talk at work or when traveling) I have deep and strong connections to my close friends and family. I say this because I think if people hear me say I don't get fused to someone they picture someone who has no emotional attachment to people and that is far from the truth. I feel emotions deeply and empathize strongly with others.
Raven and I had a conversation yesterday where we spoke of my XH and my philosophy that we felt when we married that we were together because we WANTED to be together and NOT because we NEEDED to be together. Raven and his XW had a similar conversation only SHE did not agree. She felt that being needed was a higher level of love. Which just doesn't compute for me. I would so much rather be wanted than needed...
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
