I have taken AD, when my H had his first A. I have managed to stay off them this time (experience??)
However, my H, needed them both times, this time in particular. Without them, he would be completely unable to make any sort of informed decision. For instance, he had only been on them a month or two when we saw the house (we are now living in). We knew we were moving to the area, it was a fantastic buy, and all we had to do was put together some bridge financing (time consuming yes, difficult no) but the thought of it freaked him out. He just couldn't comprehend how to go about it. This was coming from a man that has owned and ran a very successful transportation company and is extremely intelligent (counsellor's words, not mine, although I agree). I had to be the one that put everything together. This was coming from a man that usually would not think twice about handling something as minor as that
The AD, once they got into his system, have worked wonders to help him see much clearer now and be able to sort and prioritize his life (thus the one and only reason he is sticking to counselling AND staying on the meds). The meds will most likely be for quite a while yet, if not lifetime, but right now I see them as the only thing that will keep us together because of how they make him think
On another note, several MC have told us that the more intelligent people are, the deeper their emotions (and therefore their depression) is and the more difficult it is to get through something like this. I tend to agree on that point too
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
