Journey, Sorry to hear about your father going worse, that is a tough situation.
Here's a good website that "vets" their erotic products, including books and "adult films". They sort them by category from just plan smut to more female oriented "adult" films.
The people who run the place are quite sex-positive and have a fun sense of humor.
Scott -Who's been on vacation this week and is going a wee bit Harry Potter crazy having finished books, seen the new movie, watched the older movies and is getting ready to re-listen to the entire series. Gads, I'm a nerd.
"Satisfaction is not guaranteed." Rule #19 Ferengi "Rules of Acquistition"