just checking in on all of you this morning. I understand that you are dealing with spouses you no longer know. I have been there and it is an awful feeling. It has taken so much to begin to see my H as human again. I have told him everything I felt and the things he did that hurt so much...he doesn't even really remember...well, he remembers but he said life was surreal and he felt like he was the one in the fog. I can't stress enough to try to get on with your lives as best as possible, especially when you have children to worry about and currently you are the stable parent. I felt so alone because my H ditched all of us...didn't even take part in the kids lives for the 6 months this was going on. I started counseling by myself the week H left and have just recently started going every other week. I have become much stronger and know I can live without H, I am making the choice to try to make my marriage work. Once I got out of the fog and began to tolerate the feeling of rejection, things started to get better. I did not throw up everyday, and slowly he did not occupy my thoughts 24/7. This will happen to all of you! Stay strong and please treat yourselves nicely...remember you did nothing to cause this!
