[quote=Kettricken)I'm not sure entirely what to do with this; I've never been a game player and actually am really put off by any kind of "testing", manipulative behavior; playing 'hard to get', etc., that whole (so-called "female") indirect communication thing. Be open, honest, and say what you want; that was my motto. While I still believe that .... maybe there needs to be some wiggle room in sexual matters ..... thinking hard right now.
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I, too, have felt uncomfortable "using" sexuality in this way as I like to think of myself as a straightforward, honest person, but now I am beginning to see that health is in finding a balance. There is a way to be playful without being over the top manipulative, which can be just plain FUN for both partners. I agree with MJ that it is a question of intent. If you begin to get off solely from the power of it all, well that is just ego. But why not enjoy some of the power, sexiness, and creativity that play has to offer? ( Corri, you recently posted something about this to me and I get it)!
