Jet, I agree with Suit. If you really want her back, and that is something you need to decide one way or the other, then you need to do it unconditionally and that means accepting her for who she is and what she did.
But also realize that you fall under a common theme here - that as long as the OM is in the picture there will be no real progress. She is trying to deal with her past and her demons yet OM represents her life line. Until she gives that up the situation will remain stagnent.
If you think it is best to try again then patience is the path. That sucks, but that is the price. If OM remains then it is time to look back into the mirror and ask if you really do want her or if she is no longer right for you. She cannot have it both ways unless you are willing to be hurt.
