If your intent is to give or share pleasure or arousal then how can it be wrong unless one believes that the pursuit of pleasure itself is wrong due to prudish conformity to "adult" standards of proper behavior (everything from old-school feminism to fundamentalist religious beliefs to the Puritan/Corporate work ethic might apply.)
I think you may have hit may H's nail on the head here.
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
