Ah the chase! All good ideas Mojo. I have very occasionally been able to get H to chase me and it is good fun. But I have to say it is not a natural modus operandi for him. It is almost like he is the one that would rather be chased - as you said feminine top. Even when we do go into chase mode when he catches me he tends to revert back to his favoured languid sensuous style.
When I was first dating xBF I used to go out on the town with him all dressed up but with no knickers on. I would be continually giving him little reminders about it, like telling him how wet I was getting between the legs with no cotton there etc, or that I could feel a draught. It worked a treat!
When I was first dating H we had to do a lot of sneaking around a) because I hadn't quite ditched xBF (yes I was a very morally reprehensible person back then and not at all differentiated) and b) because we were close work colleagues and didn't want the others to know about it. There was a hell of a lot of pent up desire going on between us, I guess it was the equivalent of the tease, and the sparks certainly flew.
I get the feeling that the sneaking around that you and NG are doing at the moment is all adding fuel to the flames!
Nowadays though if I try to tease or get him to chase me he just seems to get resentful about it like I'm denying him his rights. Like 'why are you being so difficult about this?' In fact I haven't even bothered to try in a good while. He's the same if I say something about him wanting to have his wicked way with me, he gets all hung up on the word wicked and seems to think I'm implying his drive is bad or disgusting. Why is it so darn difficult to explain to him that I'd really like to be hunted down, caught, and for him have his wicked way? He is WAY too much of a nice guy.
Kettricken:
You know if you're not that into something you're not likely to get all kitted out with the right equipment are you? I guess that's why I've never really thought about getting any toys. But I think I might buy myself a little birthday present
I was giving the whole thing a bit more thought, and realised that I DO sometimes O in my sleep and that is pure fantasy with nothing physical going on at all. Maybe things would work better for me if I just carried on fantasising without any touching at all, see if I can just give myself a mind-fcuk. Now there's a thought
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
