Agree with ERC. The key to DBing is to draw the WAW back to you by doing 180's and (more importantly) GAL. So you need to find some activities outside the home that are for you alone: Dance lessons, yoga class, karate class, men's club, etc.
Understand that you are completely helpless to stop her from doing anything. Asking (or telling) her to stop will accomplish nothing. You need to become an attractive alternative to whatever she is doing that you do not want her to do.
And: Maintain PMA (positive mental attitude). You gotta be positive and cheerful all the time, especially around your wife. It will confuse her and drive her crazy (it does for my wife!).
