My wife wants out !!

[dadtotwo]

I am also aware that she has been speaking with OM for some time now. She said a few weeks ago that she was only talking to him for support as he went through a divorce. I have tried to be calm about it after I blew up at her for cheating. I said that regardless of our situation, it is unacceptable to be talking to OM about our marriage in our house with our children sleeping across the hall. I fear that this new excitement for her will prevent her from opening back up to me. I have read quite a bit on EA and I can understand the need for attention, feeling good etc. but it still hurts that she would bring another person into our relationship. It is obvious as she keeps her cell phone hidden or close to her all the time. I have accepted responsibility for my actions but when does she? We both got disconnected and we both should share the responsibility to do our very best to work on our marriage.