Trying to set those goals!

[mkultra]

GOAL -Physical contact on skin-
I have some of my goals confused because I have TWO books on Saving my Marriage. One is DB, of course, and the other is Light Your Fire. DB is better when you are doing it alone. Light Your Fire is better if both partners are compliant.

Unfortunately, my H disdains the idea of Saving The Marriage, not because we had such an awful marriage but because he is a ROMANTIC! Can you believe the irony? He believes in passion and romance and that it should be organic and mystical not contrived or planned from a book.

The Light Your Fire goal was to make a physical contact daily, such as touching the top of his hand or a pat on the back, skin is preferable. I still try but I can tell he inches away to give me space. I showed him some photos today and tried to hand them into his hand and he was quite deliberate in not touching my skin. Odd. Am I a leper? He used to be so hot for my skin?

DB Goal- Not to rally the troops- SOOOOO hard! I just spillled the beans twice today!!! I guess I need affirmation that I am not crazy. I need to make a connection with other women who may have marital issues too. I seek advice from people who care about us. I have such a hard time containing my frustration over my sitch. If someone asks me why my H is acting so odd or where has he been, I am honest!