... it's not even so much that I want to be chased (although that is cool too) as that I wanted to be hungrily growled at and devoured .....
... catching me is easy .... maybe too easy?
MJ, I am buying this book tomorrow (it's "He Comes Next", right?). You (well, and the author) are definitely on to something here. I have had two experiences in the past week that make me very open to the possibility. In both, I was being flirtatious in a situation (once in the car on the way somewhere, once via instant messaging) that could not immediately lead to sex. Interestingly, the kicker in each case was when I stopped verbally pursuing and responded saucily, "You'll have to catch me first!" Large red button, push here. Who knew it could be so easy? Mind you, it didn't actually *lead* anywhere in either case. But the vibe was definitely more playful and relaxed; I could almost see his "chase instinct" kick in a bit.
I'm not sure entirely what to do with this; I've never been a game player and actually am really put off by any kind of "testing", manipulative behavior; playing 'hard to get', etc., that whole (so-called "female") indirect communication thing. Be open, honest, and say what you want; that was my motto. While I still believe that .... maybe there needs to be some wiggle room in sexual matters ..... thinking hard right now.
On the other hand .... I have also done some ... well, several ... of those "public teases" the author refers to. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. On those occasions when your partner isn't paying much attention to sexual signals and is only waiting for those chemicals to build back up in their system (and believes that the *only* thing that will make them reWolf is that) ... nothing may be effective.
But even a partial success rate based on strategy/knowlege is probably a lot better than lucking into it and then still being a bit frustrated because you don't even know what you did *right* ....
... although I would still hate to feel like I was gaming him, pulling his strings ..... hmmmmmmmmm ....
... it's in a good cause, right???
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
