Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

I posted earlier about an unexpected visit from my wife a few nights ago. She was waiting for me in my house when I got home and she was very upset and crying.

She wanted me to comfort her but she wouldn't tell me what was wrong so I didn't push it. Eventually she started talking on her own about why she was upset. All she said was:

"I don't understand why I do the things I do. I'm not that kind of person. I'm never going to drink again."

And a little later she said, "I don't want to be alone." Not as in tonight, but in general she doesn't want to be alone. She has been married since she was 17 years old, and moved into a relationship with me immediately after divorcing her 1st husband.

That's about all she said other than small talk.

For the last few months she has been going out almost every weekend and drinking heavily. This is very uncharacteristic of her as she has never behaved this way before. She met the OM in a bar when she was drinking.

I think she is going through a MLC and maybe/hopefully she is finally getting tired of partying and drinking.

But she is still involved with the OM, and I'm worried that her fear of being alone will keep her involved with him just to fill the emptiness.

I think her statements, "I don't understand why I do the things I do. I'm not that kind of person," are related to the OM. What else could it be? I think her statements are a good sign.

I know there is nothing I can do at this point but wait it out, but does anyone have any thoughts or experience with this type of behavior and what it means?

Thanks,
Svejk