Seems to cement that W is in fact going to MC & not just to better the R for the kids sake, etc.
With each session, it looks like you gain some connection, positive feelings, & understanding.
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on a subconscious level mostly, if not entirely (I didn't realize it until some time in the last few weeks/months and somewhat today), because my reaction to abandonment is to become more independent, to say this is not a problem and to deny that I have needs that are not being met. I act as if I don't need intimacy, affection, affirmation, or to hear "I love you" every day
This is pretty big. I do this also, along with the denial that I have any needs that are being unmet. I'm sure this causes difficulties with intimacy & did so in both our R's. Your C sounds so on top of it
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So the awakening continues. This is VERY good.
More than good....GREAT!
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And I am glad W is hearing it, and I think she is absorbing it at some level.
I believe so also.
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The critical point for me is that it is essential that I back off and let her be, and give her privacy and freedom and independence.
Yes. The more space the better, IMO.
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And the key to almost all of that is being patient and managing my PMA
Exactly.
The phone call sounds like it went well, sometimes you have to trust your gut & go for it.
Looks like it's heading in the right direction & you know the steps to take & not to take to get it there. Yay You!
