I think it was hardly on me because I did all the searching, and he hesitated for about 8 months before he gave me the ok to go ahead. Had he not hesitated, we would have found her probably a couple of months before she passed away
I think the only reason she told her H is because her H is my H's father (I am so certain of it) because they married only 11 months after he was born. He came from a fairly well-to-do family and they married just after he turned 21 (therefore when my H was born he would have needed his parents permission to marry and her being 25, pregnant, and from a poorer family, I am sure it was a disgrace) What makes me think all the more that he was his father is the fact that I found a first cousin of his, their fathers were brothers. He did a lot of genealogy and posted on a lot of boards (like I do) but he didn't have a clue his father had another brother - rejected by the family for marrying her anyway??
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)