"I transferred $xxx from my checking acct to yours. This is for AT&T, Capitol and CL&P."
Good!!
"The electronic bill payments that were scheduled are pulling from checking 01 (yours). Can you look at how to select which checking acct it pays from? I don't know how to do that. There are other bills scheduled to be paid, and I am afraid that they will come out of the wrong acct and we will be overdrawn."
Is there a way you can check this on your own?? I don't know how you've got things set up.
On the money - as soon as possible, I would stop with the "who's paying what out of what account" thing. I realize this is all VERY new so it's bound to be awkward for awhile, but you should really just discuss how much $$ each of you gets per month (I'm assuming he'll owe you $$?). Then set up the transfers, and use that to pay the bills. Then you have no reason to get into who's paying what when.
"Also, I am going to need the computer back. The one from school won't let me print, and I need to be able to do that. The cost of the filing ($225) came out of my acct, so if you get the computer, it would equal about half of that shared cost...? Please try to have it for the Saturday drop-off if you agree."
It took me a minute to even figure out what you meant here, but once I finally did, it sounds kinda bitter. I'd separate the computer thing from the filing thing completely.
"I would like the computer back. The one from school won't let me print, and I need to be able to do that. If you agree, please have it ready for me to pick up at the Saturday drop-off." [anyone have opinions on "need" vs. "would like"?? I was thinking it sounded better? Also should there be anything if he doesn't agree?]
Then SEPARATELY mention the filing (probably better up above with the stuff about the bills). First off, did you guys agree to split the filing in half? If so I'd say something like:
"Please transfer (or write me a check) for $112.50, to reimburse me for your portion of the filing fees."
If you didn't agree to that before - think about if it's worth it, and then you'll have to figure out a strategy to ask for this.
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I am also thinking of replacing the tv in the living room. I don't want anything huge or expensive...I'll get some quotes, and I hope that you can at least put half into that, too. It doesn't have to be the same week as the computer.
Huh??
No... if you want a new TV out of your money, after you've figured out who gets how much $$, then get one. There's no reason for you to be discussing household purchases or for him to be paying for them.
"Any word on the credit card thing? The $xx/month is just a few dollars shy of the minimum payment, now."
Assume that he'll know what this is about - this looks fine to me.
"As far as the kids seeing you on the 18th--19th, I need to drop them off about 8 am. I am taking the parenting class all in one day on Sat. I'll drop them off in the drive; just let me know that you are ready for them at the window when I get there. I'll beep for them on Sunday at 7pm in the drive."
How about?:
"On the 18th-19th, I'll drop the kids off about 8:00 AM. Please go to the window so I know that you're ready for them. On Sunday, I'll come get them at 7:00 PM and will beep in the driveway when I'm ready for them."
(subtle reword but makes it less about your needs, less about what you're doing...)
Last edited by NikkiB; 08/09/0710:33 PM.
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