It was a combination of my H's OW getting way to manipulative and the fact that I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR to my H that we would be friendly but NO LONGER best friends if we were to D. I was looking for house and getting pre-approved for mortgages -even had the kids prepped for this direction (they are 13 and 10, not so happy with moving to a new house but they new I had been trying everything for 10 mos. at this point). I was truly moving on and my H realized it once the kids and I were gone to Hilton Head without him for a week - the first trip EVER without him. Not sure what finally turned the light on for him - he says it was a combination of it all.
Up to this point I had been killing him with kindness - once I started really acting like we were D then things got 'more real' to him I guess.
H ended it with OW the day after we got back from HH - we are now piecing and doing very well - but it took a year to get this far...and it ain't over yet by any means. Day by Day....Baby Steps!
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Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
