Yes, Strange, Bro, it is hard to hold them, and then let them go, you feel like that is the last time you will ever have that special moment, I know that feeling all too well, I live it, a lot. But the facts are the facts, you have to let them go, they have to find their way, I know how hard it is to watch them stumble and fall, as I have told you, my W has allowed the OM, to completely get her in over her head in medical bills, and debts, that she will never be able to crawl back out, I mean he only pays for the car, that he drives, but her name is on it, their car insurance (which I only believe he pays hers, because she gets a break, because she is over 25, and he is not) and their cellphones, (which he only wants her to have to most likely keep tabs on her) We know that they have gotten themselves in this mess, and unfortunately, they have managed to dragged us down with them, (as I told you, I am financial ruin, right now) Now someone tell me again how great D is? Maybe for the blood sucking lawyers, they are the only ones who really benefit off of it.
But even though we have to go down the tubes while we watch them go as well, we have to remember somehow, someday we will survive it all, maybe with them, maybe without, but only God knows that one. Just continue to be strong, and hold on to hope, and faith, you know my W told me yesterday, I don't want to give you false hope, and I said to her, how can hope be false? Hope and faith comes from God, and to Him nothing is impossible, so what is the logic in that? I myself, for some stupid reason have been thinking about the holidays, Christmas especially, and the chance that I might not be able to spend it with her and the kids together, if the OM is still in the picture, but as of my recent discoveries about him, I'm not sure that he will be, but if he is, it will hurt, I will be crushed, but I will go on.
I know you said your not real religious, and I respect that, I'm no poster boy for the Church, believe me, but I do believe, so hold on to your faith, my friend, it will get you through this. I am praying for yours and your W's healing, as I pray for mine. Take care, Bro.