please help with advice, new here, H in mlc

[HBT]

W8ing,
Things just keep going from bad to worse. I had looked into H's cell records last month trying to make sense of his 'discrepancies/absences/lies' which totally I know I shouldnt have done; but they were thrown right in my face by him. I do deserve answers, we are married and partners at the present. He's been so secretive and mysterious, his life has changed before my eyes. Well, he made the comment asking when the bill would be here and that just got me going again. Needless to say; he says he's now had it with all my checking up on him etc. like he isn't even married anymore. I said I wouldn't have had any reason to question things had you not been so absent and secretive. He blew up and said now its my fault I've forced him out since I can't give him his space. Now he wants his own bank acct, money & I've got to deal with this all today/tonight. He's never dealt with banking or ANYTHING in our household for the entire marriage. NOW he wants to make a spreadsheet/budget etc. so we can get this over with. Just a business transaction that "needs to be handled" so he can get on with his life without me.

He's running so fast my head is spinning. I know I've done nothing to help but he's the one abandoning his committments. This is so unbelievable.