SuperDad,

I know how painful this feels to think that your wife should get 50% of the kid's time, given her selfish choices. We all share those feelings sometimes. It's really not best for your kids to have them mom or you completely ripped out of their life.

Look -- sometimes I wonder about this, too. I picture my wife hooking up with a long string of boyfriends, exposing my kids to who knows what kind of craziness.

Realistically, even with a good lawyer, even in states that require cause and fault for a divorce, you might end up being a weekend dad, supporting her, the kids and, possibly, her new deadbeat boyfriend who will become the stepfather of your children.

I know this isn't what you want to hear. Be careful. Some lawyers will sell you a bill of goods just to build up a costly court case -- knowing full well you will probably get shared custody.

Yes, you want all the money and full custodyof the kids, but chances are, you won't get everything you want in a divorce. Probably not in FL. Don't know about TX law.

Moving forward with a divorce and separate paths is stong statement enough.

--Theoden