Reality...Bite Me

[Dom R]

I think it has helped me because when our contact used to turn into conversations, I always felt bad afterwards...all I wanted was more, more, more.

WHOA, i just noticed this....
lets put aside how you felt afterwards... how were the conversations themselves?
(arg, bad deja vu here.. i seem to recall writing these words, and then shortly afterwards getting final legal notice ... we'll see )

anyways.. if the conversations were overall positive experiences (from HIS viewpoint...) then, unless you are going formally dark.. you might want to consider letting him draw you in a bit more.
If he is getting disillusioned with OW, this is the best possible time for him to get reattached to YOU.
critical window time, in my opinion.
If you are unavailable, and she is available... he will eventually go back to her, in that situation, i think.
The only way you would be really safe form that, would be if he wasnt in the band anymore.
danger of a "love the one you're with" attitude from him.

yes, you want more.. of course you do. But you have to get a grip over yourself. If the only negative thing is, "you want more", then be happy it could be a slow path to get it!

If on the other hand, the conversations end in bad arguments, or other relationship-negative things, then you are doing the right thing in going dark.