Still Seperated and Hopeful

[SuperDad]

MC,
I hope you don't see this as a Hijack since we started with your pondering how to be more attractive to your W!? If so, I can move it over to my thread.

This is what Frank did. He looked at the situation and said, "We can't afford separate households right now. So let me help you get your business off the ground so you can move towards contributing 50% of household expenses. Then you'll be in a place where you can move out. This way we'll both avoid living in nasty cramped housing. If you really want your space, move into the spare bedroom and put a lock on your bedroom door." Or something like that. Then Frank proceeded to GAL in a serious way. This gave his wife a taste of his unavailabilty and his seriousness in moving on. He started doing fun things with the kids without his wife.

Yes, but every sitch is different. I am a long way down this path (W in separate bedroom, me doing fun stuff with the kids like taking them all over TX for the past 2 wks. only with W for 2 days, starting the long term planning for separate paths in life...) However, up to now, there has been little change in my W, as witnessed by the fact that she chose to spend most of this 2 wks in the same town as OM instead of going on vacation with her kids/me. At some point, we have to question what is in the kids best interest. Is it really to be 50% time with a person who has decided to make REALLY bad choices and who does not appear to be very stable (can't take any purposeful direction at all in their life)? I am not a lawyer, but I know that in some states (e.g. Louisiana) which still have Fault procedures in their divorce law, this is not only possible, but has happened - as it did in La. to a friend of our family, he kicked her out of the house and kept the kids and the family assets.