During the dialogue there is a specific way that you are trained to ask questions. You will both have to do 10 minutes of the structured questions on the writing before the dialogue is over. When it is over, you are then free to have a conversation. She probably will have had the wind taken out of her sails by the dialogue part, but if she is still up for the attack, she can do it. And you can respond as you see fit. However, the point is clearly made -- your feelings are your feelings. They are neither right or wrong, they are your feelings. If there is a problem such as she thinks you are wrong to have the feelings you have, then bring that up in the next meeting session. They will tell everyone that we all have a right to our own feelings, and our feelings are not wrong. There are always a few people who want to tell the spouse how they should be feeling. That doesn't fly in this group.
