Reality...Bite Me

[Dom R]

I am always so scared to make any attempts or show any affection because the last time I did, he yelled at me, "haven't we gone through enough?"...

coming back to this again... there's a big difference between
begging/crying/pressuring "WHY WONT YOU WORK ON OUR MARRIAGE?!?!?"

and raising in a neutral way, "i think there are ways that we could have a good marriage together, that I dont think we've looked at".
(and letting HIM drive the pace of looking at it)


buuut... with MLC, all that stuff is most likely going to fall on a deaf ear, i'm afraid there are teenytiny windows of opportunity, it seems. I've had maybe 2, in 12 months. Blown them both for the most part mostly because I didnt realize just how big it was. my wife actually kindasorta hinted to me about it herself... but I didnt want to push her. in retrospect, i think I should have found a way to show her things could be good with us, without making it seem like i was pushing. instead i opted to hardly talk about "us" at all.. and lost the chance.

If you see a chance, when he is feeling disillusioned with his curent lifestyle, maybe a very gentle "[if this is what you might like]" reference to something, might pique his interest.
if and only if he shows some interest, then offer him another nibble, and see if he takes it.
Thats my advice, for what it's worth.