I heard the "bumps in the road" thing too from H just the other day and thought "what the f*ck" that must have been one HUGE bump. I don't know, the whole sitch sucks, but I'm actually glad that it happened or we would be where we were, w/ absolutely no R between the 2 of us in our M, and headed toward the big D still.
I still think you are giving the OW way too much power over your thoughts & mind. I know, I know, easy for me to say, but I really think if you quit thinking of her as some sort of competition or that she is somehow better than you b/c for a time H chose her over you, you will be further ahead in that regard.
I honestly don't think w/ all that we've all gone through that we will EVER forget the lessons we've learned!!!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I don't know, the whole sitch sucks, but I'm actually glad that it happened or we would be where we were, w/ absolutely no R between the 2 of us in our M, and headed toward the big D still. 