I'm starting the journey home!

[dlt1]

Yeah man, you have got to let her take some of that on herself. Let her be alone. I don't know if my W has missed me, but I have given her the chance (somewhat) despite how wrong it feels.
Is she going to/willing to change that crazy stuff? It's a two way street, you got here b/c of both of you, not just YOU. I don't have a good answer on how to determine thsi or talk to her about it.
Explore your feelings, that's the best I got today