Sorry I did not get back sooner, it sounds like you are done and you have made up your mind that you deserve better than your husband! Good for you, you have made a choice for yourself and the kids! I wish you the best with this, and I am sorry to hear that it sounds like you and your H. have gotten into a flinching match! Who flinchs first, I understand your pain with knowing he has an OW and I don't blame you for being done with the relationship!
I just hope you and H. work out something good for the kids and your H. continues to fill his fatherly responsibilites. I also hope the OW is good mother figure since it seems she will probably be involved since he is so screwed up, I doubt he can do things on his own.
The grip they have whether it be OW or OM is the prey on peoples displeasure and try to show them how great it can be. They treat the other person like a first or second date, all affectionate and loving. You know all the things most of us have taken for granted for years. Because if we didn't in some form or another than why would we be here.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
