The beauty spot here is that if you really open yourself up (somebody stop me; that was an accident too) to masturbation (as an adjunct to, not a replacement for) your "real" sexual relationship ... you just might be able to have it both ways, at least to an extent you can live with.
Of course, if you and your LD spouse were really differentiated or French, you could just have Wolf #1 on Wednesday and Wolf #2 on Saturday. Assuming that Wolf #2 was pretty differentiated too.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
