Reality...Bite Me

[Dom R]

I don't think H has the balls to come back even if he wanted to.

That's why its important that you dont completely give up... so that, every once in a long while... you can say or do something to indicate that the door can still be opened again. (so long as he is willing to change by treating you better)

...He never felt like he did anything wrong.

Hmm. tough to deal with people like that.
Interestingly, I read somewhere that they are the MOST likely people to have affairs. Because people who realize they arent perfect, realize that they CAN screw up, and so are more likely to avoid things that lead to it.

I have little faith in him. I have little hope that he will feel for me again. I have little hope that I could ever see him the same way again.

Well.. on the down side.. you cant control him, or his feelings... he may never come around, this is true.

But on the up side... most people DO wake up out of MLC... and unless he is both incredibly talented, AND incredibly lucky, his band wont last either. The odds are on your side. it's just the time period that is horrible.

You will never see him the same way as you did when you first got married. But I think you can still love him, incredibly strongly, and lovingly, to the degree a great marriage needs.
you wouldnt be here otherwise.

chin up. keep yourself occupied, and amused, while the clock runs down.