What goals have you met?

[SallyM]

I need to start rethinking/resetting goals. I have met several in the past few months...and I understand about disneyland, which is impressive. I was pretty happy with myself for finally braving the science museum with all 3 on my own a couple of months ago! that was huge for me. Its easy to feel outnumbered, but I'm not letting myself anymore. since the science museum, I braved lots of places on my own with the kids...even the pool, which is huge. normally I'd wait until h or a friend could be there, or else I'd relegate them to the kids pool.

some things I've done just for me is to really try to GAL. I've reached out to friends I've let drift away, I've pursued some new friendships. I've made an effort to get myself and the kids out of the house more. I also made a list at the beginning of summer of things I like to do in the summer and have been doing a lot of them. I could see how summer could easily slip away while I'm busy being sad that H isn't here to do these things with me/us. I'm happy to say I didn't let that happen, and am going to start my fall list soon.

for H and I, I've tried to really change how I react to him...I may still get upset at stuff (obvious if you read my posts), but I try not to let that show...I try to think more before responding to him when he is obviously working hard at button pushing. I've stopped, for the most part, all R talk. I've stopped, for the most part, all snooping. and I've continued to make the changes that we originally talked about when the bomb first hit. our mc had us each make a list of things we needed from each other in order to work on the marriage. 90% of what was on his list were things I wanted to change about myself, so I've embraced them and have moved forward with them, even though H has yet to do anything on my list (mostly revolving around letting ow go).

there is still a lot of room for improvement, but I'm working on it. will start thinking of my goals again and laying new ones for myself.