Lessons from a former WAS

[thegoodfight]

Kelley,

I agree not communicating on both parties part usually will cause problems. Yes you are dead on, right now the OW meets his needs and he doesn't have to apologize or face up to reality with her. Too bad, because one can not run for ever it will catch up sooner or later and the same issues will arise because he never addressed and fixed the problem in the first place.

Actually I hope for both of your sakes he decides the OW is not the answer and comes back to you to fix it. Based on what you have written that seems remote, but if that were to happen then you guys have a chance. In your mind you would know he choose you and the family, regardless of what decision you make after that, he would have chose you.

I hope my W. realizes no matter what had happened or what will happen, I came back because I chose to face up to problems and address them so I would have a chance and getting my family back.

Don't know what will happen but I will someday sleep better, knowing I made some huge mistakes, but I did the best I could to atone for them. All we can do is try, you only really fail in life when you don't try! I mean really try give it your all, and more often than not you won't dissapoint yourself.