My wife wants out !!

[dadtotwo]

I am new here so I will try and give you all the short version. My wife and I have been married almost 11 years and have 2 beautiful children (5D,4S). Over the last 3 years I have created a financial mess for our family. I was so determined to make us a better life that I compromised our financial well-being. Loss of health insurance, bankruptcy and our house is in foreclosure. My wife has been living this nightmare and has been waiting for me to "fix it". She wanted me to do "whatever it takes" to make money in any way. I was not working steady for almost 2 years but have been back to work for the last year. Yet, I was unable to get us out from under this mess. Meanwhile, we became so distant and we stopped communicating and our relationship was in a tail spin. No intimacy, no smiling, no nothing. Her resentment towards me grew more and more and I chose to ignore it thinking things would get better. I have no excuses for what has happened and I have put my family in terrible financial trouble. A few weeks ago she said that she cannot "live like this any more". She needs a man she can count on to do whatever it takes and I am not that man from her standpoint. She thinks we are better off going our seperate ways so that we can rebuild our lives. She has said that she will always love me but cannot count on me to give her and our children the financial stability we need. There is so much more to tell and I welcome feedback and will reply to tell more of the story. I still have hope that we can reconcile and be stronger later. I am making the necessary changes to work as much as possible but from her position it is "too much too late". Our one and only counseling session from yesterday just reiterated that she is very hurt, resentful, has no trust or faith in me and does not see her feelings changing.