About the R talk - the dog poop analogy actually does make sense. I actually haven't initiated any R talk in a few weeks now - but I feel like in doing so we are moving farther away from any goal. My H is not someone who openly shares his feelings to begin with so now I fear that our situation has worsened i/o of getting any better. My session with the therapist last night really has me questioning things now...
If I did something consciously horrible to my H, I would think I deserve and/or should expect this kind of treatment. But I have always loved, respected and honored him and our marriage. Yes, I am completely at fault for not acknowledging issues in our relationship, not cleaning up after myself, allowing the passion in our sex life to fade, etc. But my point of view is that you wake up from the fog, realize these things are problems and you work on them because you have a commitment in marriage. The 1st instict should not be to runaway. If we were to try to work on these things together and either of us felt at that point that things were just not the way that we want them to be - then OK - I could understand that - we could both agree to walk away with our heads held high knowing that we gave it our full effort. But for him to sit there and say he doesn't think we can work on anything - I just don't get. I am having a really frustrating day!!
