dlt1 - i know you are hurting and I am sorry. You need some time away from W to let your emotions out. Grieve, hurt, mourn, cry, whatever. Go ahead and get it out, so when you have you can get back to dbing clearly.
You have to trust uis - the ring issue is not determinative of your M/R. It just isn't. Also understand that for many of us, the WAS will continue to pull further away for a while even after your start dbing. Be patient. They can still stop and turn around. You have to focus on you (take care of you) and (2) give her time and space. Really try to avoid any R talks. Do not bring up the rings. Don't do it. It will make things worse.
Hang in there, Nomo
PS - It will get better (your hurt, that is), and it can be sooner than you think.
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
