It's going to be a bumpy ride

[Dom R]

You're going to be stressed as heck, and sad, and...
of COURSE you feel depressed.. you would be wierd if you didnt!

I think you're doing well, given your situation! you are making your home a positive place for you to be, you are not giving your approval for him to be living separately.

remember: pick a plan, and stick to it.
if you're going to do the harley way, do it soon, and stick to it all the way.
If you're not (and sounds like you arent), then feel the grief when you're alone, but fire up the Positive Mental Attitude, and show your strength and attractiveness, when you are together.

[for other women, showing the grief and sadness and might work, but in your case, your husband has already said he wants a 'strong' woman]

You can do it! You ARE strong.
You have feelings, which make you feel sad, and miss him, and make you want to cry sometimes... but having feelings, does not make you weak!

You can show him that.
If you have a crying episode, you might even tell him that.

To use a more guy-oriented metaphore: Courage is not the lack of fear... it is having the strength of will to continue in the face of fear. he might not understand the part about crying, but he will understand the courage bit.