Jet, I posted a little to hastily above. I did not bother to read you entire thread only you past couple of post.
Man, I applaud you for your patience with your wife. It seems that you have been more then accommodating and with her and that you have given her ample time, space, patience and proven to her that you have changed and that you are not the same man she was married to.
Here is my blunt opinion (and you know what opinions are like). Seems like she is just stringing you along. She has talked about reconciling several times over a long period of time, but she has not really done anything more then talk. You have given her every opportunity to come back into your arms. My logic says she needs to sh*t or get off the pot, as the saying goes. But, I also know that if I were in your shoes I would not be able to tell my wife that. I would most likely continue to let her string me along.
I have to say you have done/are doing everything right for your sit. She just needs to pull the trigger and do her part now and get on the path back to you. But,she seems to lack the ability or maybe even the 100% desire to do so. She seems to want to, though her words. But then she tells you that she does not want to through her lack of actions.
I hope she will come around and take action. You may need to start to close the door of opportunity for her to return. You have given here plenty of time and she has had plenty of chances. You sound like a good man and you deserve someone in your life who wants to share your love and happiness and to take pictures with where you are both smiling in them. Maybe you need to reconfirm to her that you want her back and remind her of the terms you have already set forth if she does return, but you also need to tell her that this is not a opened ended offer and that you can not sit idly by indefinitely while she strings you and the OM along.
Best wishes to you. You are a good man and you have given me hope for my own sit. I know you will be ok, because you already are. You have already started a new life for you and your son. But, you are just patiently waiting for your wife to take action. But, even if she does not, like your wife says, you will make your next wife very happy with the new you. Your X knows that.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
