Making the Move

[NikB]

Care - good to see you posting here!! Looks like you're a bit further along than me in that your H is fully committed to you, but I can sure see some similarities to my sitch. My H feels the same way - because he hasn't slept with her, there's nothing wrong with it. I swear if I hear "just a friend" again my head might actually explode.

I'm in the same boat of giving her way too much power in my life right now too. It's easier to ignore her when your H isn't committed anyway. It's a whole lot harder when you're trying to fix your M! I actually think you and your H are both right. You need to let it go - but I don't think you can until he admits that it was wrong. Why? Because if it wasn't wrong, what's to prevent it from happening again??

Someone emailed me a good article about EA's the other day. I'll see if I can find it and maybe something in it will help. It might even be something to share with your H? I don't know, maybe ask the IC first. I know usually not to "push" them to agree with us, but maybe it would help him see your perspective better.