Good advice on finding the therapist. When I interviewed a second one recently, after ditching one who apparently only wanted to teach me to meditate for now, he basically told me to find a life coach. No luck yet.

I know this more from reading other's sitches than my own, but you have only just started a long term process and you have to take care of yourself first. Only then will your H be drawn back to you.

I haven't thought this through yet, and it might not be appropriate, but it seems to me that R talk can be like training a dog not to crap in the house by holding his nose to it. The dog thinks, yeah, that's my crap. The dog goes there again, or somewhere else you don't want him to. Better training is done by paying attention to the dog and creating the opportunity for him to crap in the right place. Keep doing more of the same and he will keep crapping in the right place. Make any sense?

Me 40
W 38
S 4
M 7.75
ILYBNILWY 6/8/07
"do not want to be your W" 6/16/07
DB'ing 6/30/07

1st M 6 yrs; she was my first WAW

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