I suppose I'm wondering why do we have to wait until she is physically here to start exploring if she is willing to make a committment to trying.
Thoughts?
I think she has already answered that question for you.
Originally Posted By: Jet
She doesn't want to disappoint me or our son by moving too fast. She says her goal is to find a job and a place to live in my town and go from there. Move slowly and see where it leads. She doesn't want any closeness or to give any affection. She just wants to hang out. She said it is with me and our son that she feels safe and secure.
She is scared and uncertain. She does not want to return to the same R with you that she just left. You need to prove to her, through your actions, that things will be different and not like before. Let her move at her own pace. Patience is your biggest ally right now. She is trying to come back to you, but just needs time and NO PRESSURE!
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
