It is difficult when you are the one who doesn't have time to plan out your next move. When a bomb or whatever is dropped on you. Hopefully this helps, when I left I planned it out also, doesn't mean I knew it was best, I just believed it to be the only answer at the time. Just because they leave does not mean they won't come back.
It is strange, when we are incapable of giving ourselves to the other, we tend to run away. It takes people time but again most learn you can't run away from yourself or your family. Mainly because we realize our family is really a piece of ourselves. Once you put things into perspective and it takes time I know, then it will get easier. Not all the time but most of the time. If you want it to work out between you find a way to keep something, a memory or something so you don't close your heart and feelings completely to him.
I don't know for sure, but I suspect you two will be given a chance, just trust you two will be ready to embrace that chance. I wish the best for you and your family. I will get over to your thread and read it.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
