I really don't know. But, I decided to not say anything to him and just help the kids deal w/it. I also decided to play a little hardball w/him....
He bought a motorcycle a few years ago. Never rode it much and last year it needed a lot of work. So, I started working extra at my office and putting $ aside. I was able to have the motorcycle fixed up (about $600) and we gave it to him for Father's Day last year.
Well, he will get it in the divorce which is fine w/me. We owe nothing on it. He told me he planned to sell it b/c he didn't want to take the risk of riding it b/c life was too short. Uhhhh....ok.
The kids told me yesterday that his brother came home w/them and rode the motorcycle home b/c H GAVE it to him for his birthday. K....I was pretty much irritated b/c all I ever hear is how broke he is, how he doesn't know how he'll make it, how he drinks slim fast for 2 meals b/c he can't afford groceries (AND he isn't ashamed to admit that!) blah blah blah blah blah.
He called to "check in" last night and I asked him if he needed a stove b/c the one at my new house was in good shape but I'm getting new. He said no and than jokingly said "You're just trying to suck up b/c you sold my washer." (He bought me a new one in December and I sold the old one which I guess he wanted and he was an a** about it).
I said "Well, you GAVE AWAY the motorcycle". He said "Well, what use would you ever get out of it?" I said "I put some $$ in that last year." This went back and forth for a second and, keep in mind, it was all done in a teasing manner. BUT, I was pretty much serious. Finally I said, "So, do you want the f**king oven, or not?" He said "no thanks" and I ended the convo.
He tries to tease me b/c he wants to be friends. Typically I would be quiet and try and make him feel good. Now, I just go along w/it and give the teasing right back. It's a good way for me to say some things without being involved in conflict. It felt good and like I gained a little more control.
Just wanted to share. He called again later to "check in" b/c he was all alone and he cannot stand that. Again, with choices comes consequences.
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
