I hear what you're saying. I think it would be a problem to believe that mirroring would fix all our problems. But I do see it as a tool that could help and therefore, it's worth a try.
I hate to beat a dead horse, but from my POV, I've already taken steps to understand cac's LL, to try to love him in his language.
Not pretending to hold a candle to Mojo, I think things are better and I think he thinks so too. (I've polished up my BJ techniques enough for him to email me from work recently telling me how he couldn't stop thinking about it because it was so great. :-)) Yes, he gave me WOA big time that day and I told him how much I loved getting that email from him.) And it made me want to do it again.
From experience I KNOW that I am extremely likely to feel amorous, desirous and/or horny when I get some QT or WOA. I have pointed this out; he was surprised to hear that I actually feel closer to him after we talk, even if it gets heated, which it often does. I've told him (maybe not plainly enough) that I would be putty in his hands if he could reach out to me when things get heated. I suppose the same is true for him but sadly, we're both too afraid to take the step. So I guess there is an instance where we don't want to show our vulnerability.
OK, this is good. I keep getting more insight. I wish I could just lay things out here like everyone else does (whose spouse isn't a poster.) Maybe I can. The sun hasn't fallen from the sky yet.
